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you ever been in a situation with one of your children and
wished you had In-Home Assistance? Finally, there's a way
to achieve having the family that you always hoped for. It's
based on tested results established over the past 25 years.
many of you are aware of the popular television shows
aim to aid a family in crisis mode, my RCB In-Home Service
is a proactive approach to creating successful family relations.
your home and help you remedy conflict, promote cooperation,
peace and a sense of team within your family all while practicing
RCB techniques in a loving and respectful manner.
best of all, I am so confident that the RCB methods
will benefit your family that it comes with a MONEY
Pearlman & Larry Sadiropoulus, Attorney - "I
will be forever indebted to Hilde Gross for giving me
the tools, knowledge and guidance to completely transform
my family. The basic premise behind her individual coaching and seminars
are a kinder, more gentle way of relating to your children.
This has allowed me to be the type of mother that I had
always envisioned I would be: patient, loving, understanding,
yet able to establish and maintain clear boundaries.
Working together with my children to set agreements that
include clear expectations as well as predetermined consequences
has virtually eliminated the need for power struggles,
whining, arguing, and tantrums. Empowering our children
to practice self calming techniques, employ a family
team atmosphere, and conflict resolution techniques have
instilled invaluable confidence in our children.
Not only has this course positively affected our relationship with our children,
but it has also strengthened my bond with my husband. We have both learned to
listen to each other—really listen!!! We have learned to validate each
other’s feelings in a way that makes us both feel “heard and understood.” Once
this has been accomplished, there is little need to continue belaboring our individual
points and we can begin to work toward a solution.
I can not stop telling my friends and
family about this course! I truly feel proud of the mother
that I have become, and I am amazed by the patience, sensitivity
and dedication that my husband displays toward our children." (For more testimonial
is NO RISK and only an improved family life to gain!
Other Testimonials ...
- Julianne Ball – 03-06-2014
“Thank you Hilde so much for coming to our house yesterday. I feel so empowered now as a mother and you have helped to eliminate stress and anxiety and have helped to bring so much peace in our lives. Your advice and techniques have completely changed our lives after ONLY 1 session! Contacting you definitely goes on the list of best decisions in my life J! Thank you and see you next week J.
Charles & Pamela Brock
Hilde, Words cannot describe how beneficial the RCB course has been
to our family. Despite reading
dozens of books, we often felt more lost than
inspired. After completing the RCB course we have seen dramatic
improvements in our daughters
behavior, her overall happiness, and our enjoyment
of her company.
Several months later after we both took Hilde's
RCB seminar, our daughter was having problems leaving her now growing
baby sister alone. Nothing we did seemed
to work, and we referred often to the RCB book. Exhausted with her behavior,
we finally spent two hours with Hilde at our home, and received tools to control
the behavior, and, more importantly, knowledge that our daughter was not possessed
by the devil, but was acting normally… we had just not been applying the tools
in the book properly. It was the most profitable two hours we can remember experiencing."
- Sarah Knapp (16 years old, 2009)
"Secrets to Successful Parenting is a very inaccurate business title,
because throughout the work of Hilde Gross, "Secrets to Successful
Loving" is probably the closest to the truth! By opening passages of
communication we did not know were there, she strengthened not only our
relationship with each other, but our relationship with ourselves and
pushed my family in the right direction towards pure communication of
thoughts, feelings, and intention of actions. Hilde has a wonderful
program that guides us all in way of emotional intelligence inside a
- Donna & John,
UCSD Math Professor
Hilde, Once again, thank you for another excellent
session you had with John, Rachel and me yesterday,
we always get so much out
of our meetings with you. It has been such a
blessing to have your help and support over the
last year. Rachel learned to cope with the difficult
situation she had at school.,
and John and I learned how to help her deal with the problem then and in the
future. I also want to make a special point of thanking you for discussing the
teasing issue with John (very tactfully too I might add). I got nowhere trying
to get him to stop the teasing, but he was willing to listen to you and may now
modify his behavior as a result of your exchange. Thank you so much!!
Amy & Nick, Counselors, San Diego
husband I are couselors and already knew alot
about children's behavior. Still, we'd developed
some bad parenting habits. In just one two-hour
session, Hilde helped us to stop solving our
children's conflicts for them. She also taught
us to meet our children's needs for attention
in easy, fun ways -- and their tantrums stopped.
It was amazing!"
Hilde, Well, we've have been working on the bedtime
techniques and so far so good! The yelling
and screaming are almost none! The peace
and calmness is so much better. We thank you very
much for the home visit. Even though
we know you for a very short time, you feel like
family to us. THANK YOU FOR PUTTING OUR
FAMILY BACK TOGETHER! We love you!"
Hank & Jenny Goodman, Attorney, San Diego
In-Home Service was great because it gave us
personal attention and we could focus on examples
specific to our situation
rather than in a group dynamic discussion topics that might not be relevant to our child.
We intend to have Hilde back for refresher sessions in the future as we continue practicing the skills
we were taught. We fee a lot more confident now and our child is doing much better at respecting
the boundaries we have now established after completing the course with
La Jolla Light (Feb. 2008) "Parenting
Coach Can Help"
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Parenting coach can help! Feb 6, 2008 By Maria Connor - La Jolla Light
La Jolla parents have two opportunities to meet Hilde Gross, a certified family
coach and Redirecting Children's Behavior (RCB) instructor who specializes
in home visits. The first is free seminar on "How to Avoid Everyday
Power Struggles" presented Monday, Feb. 11 from 6:15 - 7:45 p.m. at
the Riford Library, 7555 Draper Ave.The second is a free introductory parenting
workshop on Feb. 25 from 6:30 - 8 p.m. at Stella Maris Academy, 7654 Herschel
Ave. The school will then offer two five-week workshops, one for parents
and one for children."Having the tools to effectively deal with children's
behavior, as a parent and as a child, is powerful. These are life skills," said
Patricia Lowell, Stella Maris Academy principal. "During her sessions
she presents a wealth of materials and explains the rationale for addressing
children's needs. In addition, Hilde effectively demonstrates how to 'redirect'
children's behavior in order to produce a successful outcome." Gross
has been teaching RCB, an approach developed by Kathryn Kvols, whose strategies
and philosophy were strongly influenced by Rudolf Dreikurs, M.D., for more
than seven years. Gross uses the fundamentals of the course to give parents
practical tips and effective tools to create respectful, healthy family relationships.
After parents who had attended her workshops asked for additional coaching,
Gross began offering home visits.Wendy Alexander, who lives in La Jolla with
her 10-year-old son, sought help from Gross after separating from her husband.
Facing the challenges of single parenting and the emotional upheaval of divorce,
Alexander wanted to gain confidence in her parenting skills.She chose to
meet with Gross in her home for several reasons. It allowed Gross to observe
the setting and dynamics between Alexander and her son. On several occasions,
Gross actually coached Alexander through tough situations."I didn't
have to explain it," Alexander said. "She saw it."Alexander
prefers the privacy and one-on-one focus home visits provide. The sessions
with Gross keep Alexander focused on her priorities, namely her son.Mary
Sidiropoulus, a single mother with a 7-year-old daughter, has been strengthening
her parenting skills through home visits with Gross after participating in
one of her workshops."The first class I was blown away," Sidiropoulos
said. "I used everything she taught me, and I had the best weekend ever."Learning
the skills is easy, said Sidiropoulos. Maintaining them is a lot harder.
To keep herself from backsliding, she frequently re-reads the RCB handbook
and meets with Gross every few weeks."The biggest benefit is it brought
us closer," Sidiropoulos said. That sense of intimacy makes it easier
for her to avoid feeling angry or resentful when a situation comes up, since
she is able to empathize and validate her daughter's feelings.In turn, her
daughter is learning to express her feelings with words and ask for what
she needs.One of the most common problems Gross sees is parents not enforcing
boundaries"That's one of the main things I discover when I go for a
home visit," Gross said, adding that children need to know parents mean
business. "That means following through with the consequences at the
time, while staying kind and firm."The strategies Gross teaches are
deceptively simple, yet incredibly effective. The key to success is taking
action before a situation arises, so that parents can be proactive instead
of reactive.Negotiation - establishing expectations and predetermining a
consequence - eliminates the need for arguments, Gross said, automatically
reducing one of parents' biggest mistakes: talking too much.Conversely, there
are dialogues that parents should be having with children. Asking how a child
feels about a situation or letting them suggest solutions to a problem encourages
self-confidence, independence and personal accountability."That's what
I'm most interested in," said Sidiropoulos, "so that (my daughter)
grows up to be a healthy adult."With a client roster that includes pediatricians,
marriage and family counselors, psychologists and teachers, Gross said no
parent should be ashamed to seek out education. "It's important, not
because people are bad parents, but because they want to be better parents," she
said. "What parents don't know or aren't aware of is we influence a
child's personality now into adulthood with the way we respond and discipline.
The child learns the most from the person they love the most: you."For
additional information, contact Gross at (619) 379-7646 or visit www.hildercb.com.
Maria ConnorStaff writer for La Jolla Light, Del Mar Times, Solana Beach
Sun, Carmel Valley Leader and Rancho Santa Fe Record.
hundred years from now it will not matter what
my bank account was,
the sort of house I lived
in, or the kind of car I drove. But the world
be a little different because I was important
in the life of a child."